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The Lifted Hearts Community is...
"Empathy and understanding. Open hearted. Honest and truthful.
Enlightening. Unconditional. Non-judgmental. Encouraging. Warm and
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...Compassion
...Integrity
..Reason
..Caring
..Lively*
..Endurance
*(what other breakup board
contains book reviews, weather reports, poetry postings, and 'writerly' diary
entries?)
....and don't forget
HOPE itself...
That's what I've found here. It's so great to see that others have survived,
or are surviving, what you're going through. Seeing others' progress and
even setbacks help you to understand that what you're experiencing is
normal.
Lifted Hearts is wonderful
b/c
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it helps us get
through the day with the advice of others
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it's important
to realize that there are others like you that are going through the same
situation as you
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you meet people
that live in a different country that are trying to help you too
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you can help others
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and post all you
want and not get a "Oh god, not again" sigh.
And how about
these wondrous acclamations:
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we love and care
for each other
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our lives and emotions
have truly improved since we came here
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you are a hot mamma!
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NR is a stud muffin!
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there is no greater
catharsis than writing and posting your feelings here, for all the world
to see!
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Breakup or Make Up? Where is Your Relationship Heading?
Do you think your relationship has gone
bad enough that it needs a breakup? It's time to think again. Many people
who break up with their lover or spouse regret their decision not too long
after the bad scenes. Ever wondered why so many people want to go back to
their ex? This is simply because they still love each other. Breakups need
not necessarily mean that you cut off all ties with your beloved. In fact,
breaking up for a brief period of time can give your relationship a breather
and help you both get back together in a bond that is stronger than ever
before.
Breakups don't always mean it's the end of the
road for the two of you. It can be a new beginning and a positive bend in
a relationship that has run into some roadblocks. At times, when the relationship
is undergoing a crisis, taking a break from each other may solve the problems.
I know you may think that staying together and trying to find a solution
is better. However, if things become too stressful between the two of you,
it is better to separate for a while and wait for the things to cool down
so that you both can work on the relationship without the feelings of hurt,
resentment, bitterness, or betrayal.
If you are not sure which way your relationship is
heading, or if either of you feels suffocated in the relationship, staying
apart for a short while may help. At times, the partners become so possessive
about each other, or so involved with each other that they give up their
individual lives. This may be all right for some, but for most it can seem
almost stifling and suffocating. This leaves frustration with your partner
and your relationship, and you may just throw your hands up in the air and
decide to give up and get out…for good! This is another good
reason why you may need to part ways for a while. Take some time off from
each other and introspect as to what you want from the relationship, and
where you would like the relationship to go.
This periodic separation may remind you of why
you fell in love and make you look at your partner's positives all over again.
It can infuse a new lease of life in your love life.
Yes, your precious relationship might just take
on a happier and more fulfilled course after separation and reunion.
Also, there really are cases where the partners
are not good as a 'couple' but yet compatible enough to stay great friends.
So, a breakup may just mean a new 'phase' in their relationship. They may
part ways as friends and still be together - just not as life partners. Things
needn't always be ugly when dealing with a breakup. You can decide to separate
in a dignified way and be friends forever.
Not all relationships result in "happily ever
after". Similarly, not all breakups turn into "unhappily ever after" either.
Your breakup may take you to make up, but it may not - you just may need
to take a 'time-out' to decide exactly what you want to do with the rest
of your life.
For more information about getting over
the pain of breakup, please read How to
Get Over a Breakup, by Tigress Luv, the Breakup Guru.
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It's only the beginning now,
A pathway yet unknown;
At times the sound
of other steps ...
Sometimes we walk alone.
The best beginnings
of our lives
May sometimes
end in sorrow;
But even on our
darkest days ...
The sun will shine tomorrow.
So we must do our very best
Whatever life may bring,
And look beyond
the winter chill ...
To smell the breath
of spring.
Into each life
will always come
A time to start anew;
A new beginning
for each heart ...
As fresh as morning dew.
Although the cares
of life are great
And heads are
bowed so low,
The storms of life
will leave behind ...
The wonder of a rainbow.
The years will
never take away
Our chance to start anew;
It's only the beginning now
So Dreams can
still come true.
~ Gertrude B. McClain ~
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