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A Typical 'Dumper' Takes Eight-Weeks to
Regret Their Decision: How Long Will It be Before Your Ex Misses
You?
So you've been dumped? You don't necessarily
have to grieve about it. If you still love your ex very much, you may just
need to make the right moves to get him or her back. And you may soon realize
that it may not be any longer than eight weeks that they'll regret the decision
they made in breaking up with you, and realize that they want you back, too.
No, you don't need those loudly advertised, so called "love spells or voodoo
magic". All you need is some effort, determination and love.
First let us begin with what you should not
do. Most of the people try these common tricks to get their ex to come back
to them - but sadly enough, these tricks only prove counterproductive and
push your ex even further away. So, if you want you're ex back, avoid these
mistakes.
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Telling him/her time
and time again that you still love them and want them back.
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Making apology calls and
trying to assure them that you'll work to make things different.
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Using
dirty tricks like manipulating with money, kids or jealousy factors to win
them back.
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Trying to get sympathy out of your ex by acting depressed
and love-torn
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Giving assurance that you
have changed and ready to try again
No, sorry…but none of these tricks
can help your cause.
Rather
get on with your life and get back to normalcy first. May be your ex just
needed some time off from the relationship and is already considering a "come
back". Even if the come back does not happen too soon, just keep your calm
rather than making frantic calls to him/her. Once you've got on with a
comparatively comfortable life, just call up casually and ask if you both
can still be on good terms and meet or talk as friends. No, do not mention
anything about you wanting the relationship back. Just ask about their life
and have a casual talk. This call may be enough to ignite sparks of inquisition
as to why you are not trying to make a move or trying to get back together.
If you do it right, your ex may even be making the first move to getting
back with you.
Sometimes angry spouses or lovers spread bad
words, or try to do things to upset the other partner, in order to diminish
their own pain. THAT'S A BIG FAT NO-NO ON YOUR SIDE! And if your ex has resorted
to these tactics, it will take a lot of patience and understanding on your
part to not react to it. Their little antics may upset you, yes - but remember,
your main goal here is to regain a relationship with them, not start a civil
war! A simple 'non-reaction' from you may just be enough for your ex to give
up on this immature trick and think positively about you and the relationship
again. Once the 'bad spell' and fury dies down - usually at about the eight-week
mark - your partner may be pacified enough to open their heart back up to
you. After all, breakups are not always the end of the road for relationships
… they can very well be a reason for brand new beginnings.
For more information about getting over
the pain of breakup, please read How to
Get Over a Breakup, by Tigress Luv, the Breakup Guru.
For more information see
How to STOP a Breakup.
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It's only the beginning now,
A pathway yet unknown;
At times the sound
of other steps ...
Sometimes we walk alone.
The best beginnings
of our lives
May sometimes
end in sorrow;
But even on our
darkest days ...
The sun will shine tomorrow.
So we must do our very best
Whatever life may bring,
And look beyond
the winter chill ...
To smell the breath
of spring.
Into each life
will always come
A time to start anew;
A new beginning
for each heart ...
As fresh as morning dew.
Although the cares
of life are great
And heads are
bowed so low,
The storms of life
will leave behind ...
The wonder of a rainbow.
The years will
never take away
Our chance to start anew;
It's only the beginning now
So Dreams can
still come true.
~ Gertrude B. McClain ~
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