How To Get Your Ex
(Boyfriend or Girlfriend)
Back Together With You
Advice From Around the Internet

Here is a collection of some awesome
information found around the Internet
for advice, tips, hints, clues, and techniques
to get your ex back together with you. Enjoy!

From http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/LoveCat/9

I Want My Ex Back

It's classic. You break up, you're through - but you want your partner back again. Here is advice on how to get your ex back!

Don't Beg: Never beg your ex to take you back. This will only make them feel pressure.

Get Ex Back Without Sex: Don't use sex to win him back!

Patience is key: Be patient, she is not going to come back right away. she still has her doubts.

Time, independence and your self: Give it time, if it's meant to be you'll be back together.

Should you date other people while trying to get your ex back? Leave the Option Open If you want to ever have a chance of getting back together, DON´T see ANYONE? Right or wrong?

Get back strategy #1: On TV you see people try jealousy and how it gets back the ex.

WANTING YOUR EX BACK

do or dont if he cheated on you you shouldnt because how will you know he will .

so you want your ex back? ...no you dont dude. dont lie to yourself. it wont work out for you two.

I Want My Ex Back : Rekindling His Love : 8 ways to get him to beg you to take him back

1.NEVER EVER cry to your ex and tell him that you want him back. it will only make you look pathetic. you should not beg..make HIM beg!

2. guys always want what they can't have! don't be too available,be mysterious and provocative.

3. when you do see him,LOOK YOUR BEST..always always look your best!make him realize what he had lost.

4. be sweet and friendly,but not just to him..but to everyone else too (friendly,NOT flirty!).but don't blab too much.

5. smile a lot,but don't be too cheesy. show him (or just pretend) how "content" your life is with or without him.

6. don't act stupid.be smart,be polite and don't overreact. treat him like he's any of your guy friend.

7. now that you're single..enjoy being one!go out with your friends!get a new hobby!be daring!talk to other guys (who knows..)!have fun!your ex will realize that you're really having fun only if you're not faking it.

8. once again..always look your best,be respectful and love yourself. people would only respect you and want to be a part of your life only if you took good care of yourself.

Are you sure you want him back? When you love someone, its hard to let go. But are you sure?

I Want My Ex Back : Rekindling His Love : How to make him fall inlove again

1.Secretly plan to bump into him.

2.Get hott.

3. If you see him act happy like you trully are without him!

4.talk to him and act friends

..............it wont be hard since he liked you for you a long time ago............SHOW IT OFF

I want my ex back badly I really loved him, but I just don't know how to get him back. he dumped me

Ignore Him: If you want your ex to want you back

I Want My Ex Back : Rekindling His Love : Listen girls it honestly works!!!

My partner of 3 n half years decided that we were to young for a serious relationship n needed our space to go out n live our lives. Basically he wanted to be one of the lads. Well at first i was inconsolable n cried constantly. Some people even called me the psycho ex. i would ring him all the time, find out from friends wot he was doing and one night i even found myself on his doorstep begging. Everyone told me to stop texting him, ringing him n contacting him in anyway n i didnt believe them. i thought my way was best. I decided to listen everyone else advice one day and i stopped txtin, ringin or tryin to contact him and guess wot.... i got a phonecall askin if i cud go round his house and collect my stuff. and then after that i started to get txts ad phonecalls regularly. well now girls we have started to and rekindle what we had although we arent rushing back into the relationship and im stil playing it cool, n i have him eating out of the palm of my hand. So girls the moral of the story is, although you may believe your instincts to ring him n contact him are right, they are NOT!!! Listen to others advice because although its taken him 2 months to come bk hes cum bk so urs will too. It'll be ok, he will realise evntually wot hes lost and want it so badly he will do anythink to win you back. But remember you still gotta play it cool!!!

I Want My Ex Back : Rekindling His Love : Make Him Want You Back - Even If You Really Don't Want Him!

I was with my ex for 5 years and absolutly adored the ground he walked on. When we split up I felt like I couldn't go on. I found an online ebook that changed my life truely and here is basically all it learnt me.

First DO NOT contact him for a full 30 days!!! This is a killer but if you can do this the battle is over. I swear if you have lasted this long it will be driving him potty wondering why you arn't begging him for another chance. His mind will be on overtime.

Secondly, Work out for the full 30 days. Even if its just a good vigerous half hour clean up. This will get you more toned and looking good. Also if you really want him try a little dieting, weight loss is great for self esteem.

Book yourself in for some treatments at your local salon and really look your best, just incase you bump into him.

And if you do see him, be NICE not too nice, just friendly and maybe ask how he is do not get into any deep conversation with him unless he is trying to. Then just be polite.

After the 30 days you can call him but make sure it is short sweet and sound caring you can even ask him out but do not sound desperate, sound like you are wanting to catch up.

If you take it this far he is yours. A big step is if you do meet. GO HOME EARLY what?? I hear you say! If you go early itn is unfinished business and he is not going to be able to wait to see you, trust me. You'llhave him begging you to take him back.

I followed all this and guess what, when he was all over me I thought, I don't want this Im too strong for you now. I won and he is trying to get me back now RESULT!!!!!

Gooed luck girls. It hard but you can do it I did!!!!!

It's common to try to better yourself in order to win your ex back to your side.

Win him back: Nothing else can break the pain of a broken heart.

Make you ex feel your have moved on: Your ex made the decision to move on a long time beore they actually broke up

Ask him if he ever even cared about you: Dont dump someone after the dumped you and then asked you back

helping your heart get back into your ex..hands: dont direct to them show them you care by doing little things

they always come back!: ok i have had a fair few relationships and EVERY SINGLE EX i have ever had has come back

how to get him back if your paths don't cross: don't let him come to you i know its hurts but its its ment to be he will try

Ok Girls I've been there..NEVER beg for him to come back to you: Let's see...I broke up with my boyfriend after we went out for like a month

Telling Him You Want Him Back: Don't completely tell him that you want him back, only give small subtle hints

I Want My Ex Back : Words Not to Say : Tips on getting your ex boyfriend back, no matter how hard to get he is!!! IT WORKS.. 100000 % satisfaction guaranteed!!!

For all you girls that had their heartsbroken.. even if you didnt go out with him for long.. even if there was nothing he'd rememeber you by.. believe me he'll miss your presence..JUST FOLLOW THESE TIPS.. and act like you dont care.. He'll come running back.. not matter how hard to get he is.

Here are some ways to get him back:

1) if you guys hang out or are in the same place with a group of friends.. try to avoid him.. try to keep your distance.. and if he conversates with you.. then keep it simple and steady.. dont make it seem like you've wanted him to talk to you.

*dont tell him you want him back.. it drives him away.. TRUST ME! and if you already have.. then make him feel like you got over him.. by following the next tips!!

2) guys want what they cant have.. so make him wish he never broke up with you by always looking your best..

3)If you did hang out.. Always try to leave the place with a group of friends... it drives him crazy and he gets curious.. he'd want to know where you went

4)Make it sound like your life is better without him.. and seem happy

5)get closer to his bestfriend.. he cant help feeliong jelous then

6)act like this is how you are: hard to get.. dont make it seem like you're pretending .. because guys are smart

7)if he did ask you why you're ignoring him.. smile and say : Im not.. :D its just that ive been very busy..

Make it seem like you have things to do

8)Be laid back.. guys like mysterious girls.. confident girls.. girls that know whats good for them

9)When you're chatting with a group of friends.. and he happens to be one of them.. always try to avoid his conversations.. for ex: you and friends are talking about something.. he says something too.. act like you didnt hear it.. act like you're interested in what others are saying.

10)Dont look at him in the eye if you hung out.. look and smile at others..if he asked you if you were angry at him.. SMile and say.. : you didnt do anything wrong did you?

11)LOOK YOUR BEST ALWAYS!!!

12)rememeber what he liked you for.. maybe when he first met you, you wern't giving him attention.. DO THAT

13) if he texts , dont text back.. (not to all though) and if you HAD TO.. make the message simple.. mature and SHORT.. likw if he says " he hows it goin? you reply by sayin..: good.. with you?.. not " HEYY ITS GREAT .. what about you.. missed u" and all that..

14) if he calls.. talk for a minute or two.. then make up an exuse to leave.. like say : oh i have to go ill call you back... " and the best part is.. DONT CALL HIM BACK!!

15)if he opens an online conversation with you.. wait for atleast 4-5 minutes.. then reply.. in simple words..

dont get too over excited

16) when sayin hi to him and friends.. pretend to forget to say hi to him.. and if he says: hey you forgot to say hi!" say : oh.. i didnt see you there

17)If you had the chance to leave without saying goodbye.. then do so.. he'll go crazy.. TRUST ME

18)NEVER CALL.. make him miss it!

19) and if this worked.. and he came running after you.. still be laid back and take him into you're life slowly.. and still act HARD To GET.. because he'll feel more attached..

TRUST ME.. THEY WORK!!!!

build the attraction again: if u want ur ex gf/bf back, then u gotta build the attraction that u had

dont ask your best friend to hook you back up: my best friend back stabed me she was suposed t ohook me and my ex back up

dont call all the time: If you call and beg them back, it dosnt matter how much they loved you

each day gets a little harder: i want my ex-bf back so bad. i thought i was in love with someone else

get the love of your life back: i know how it feels to have a broken heart

getting your boyfrind back: i was going out with my boyfriend for 5 months when he broke up with me

I Want My Ex Back : Words to Say : how to get your ex girlfriend back

if u have been dumpt (boys) then you must make sure she knows u stil love her...she wont tell u she loves u, she wil say she wants 2 stay close friends and u shud do...giv her sum space, but always tell her how u feel, tell her u love her and contact her, then let her contact u, but u musnt contact her cos this shows that she wants u again...if she doesnt let her go and find sum1 else..if she does then well done and enjoy

I want my Ex Back: My girlfriend of a year and almost ten months broke up with me a day ago

I Want My Ex Back : Words to Say : If you want your ex girlfriend back...

If you want your ex back then you know how it feels...you feel...n how they feel. YOu want to forget everything and just start over right. My ex and i have been broken up for almost a month...n for me....its hell. She seems like shes doing fine and "moving" on...but when i talk to her she says she still loves me and wants to get back with me...shes just needs time...Guys....if your ex-gf says this.but at the same time it seems liek at school or out of school she forgot aobut you or its liek in the day its her friends guys n girls then at night she has time to talk to you..its hard...really hard...but you need to find a way to keep yourself busy n not thinking about her...its impossible to forget completly..it cant happen..but even two minutes of thinkin about nothing will help.so when she says...(I Just need time to build up trust, rspect, love, wat ever it is...take her word for it...but dont stop talking to her...keep in touch and tell her that you still care...(not those exact words but like...talk about her beauty..smile, eyes...etc....wat ever you love about your ex..tell her...Give her the space she wants...let her hear n see you talking to your friends n actullay giving her space...she say...Hmmmm...maybe he is serious...he really wants me back...But number 1 thing...Never..NEVER stop talking to them....dont lose touch...they want you to call then...IM then...text them..but you need to be strong at not get to carried away.."Annoying"...So if you want your ex back...give them the space they need...butdont lose eachother as friends..tell them how much you still car about them...write letters n poems..."more letters then poems" and every now and then...tell pull them to the side and say...hey...you are my world n you me so much to me..i love you..."or if thats to strong" say smthin in the field of..you mean so much to me...let me prove it..or..i want you..need you..and most importantly love who you are. Know that it will be ok tho...not matter what happens..even if it doesnt work out...NEVER LOSE TOUCH...call them...say hey..etc...that wat will smack them in the face one day and make them say...wow...they really do mean it.

love lasts forever: its tru mu ex and i broke up for eight years. last year he came back

Never ever EVER beg a guy: You don't want to beg a guy to go back out with you..that's just wrong

They Rip your heart out: My Ex, has broken up and come back to me 3 times now

I Want My Ex Back : Words to Say : Things you should/shouldn't do if you want your ex back

DO'S

-keep calling them even if they told you not to

-agree with every thing they say like if they say you hurt me agree and say things like i know i was selfish but i did realize i finally had a real man that cared about me

-make them understand why you broke up with him and ask them to help you understand why they broke up with you

DON'T

-dont say the wrong thing if you call him-dont let him se you so miserable- dont keep calling- dont ever give up

dont listen to people if they say you are dumb- if it takes more than 2 months to get him back and you keep trying GIVE UP and doesn't want you anymore-

what to do to get ex back: You may consider trying to be friends for a while but still show that love

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From http://www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com/
NEWSLETTER%20ARTICLES/dumped.html

What do you do when an ex comes crawling back?

He wants you to forgive him, that’s fine. Tell him its all right you will forgive him not because he deserves it but because you do. Whether or not you want to get back doesn’t matter, forgiving him is taking back your power and intentionally refusing the past to dictate your future.

Second-time-round relationships do work, sometimes. But for it to work you’ll have to go in feeling stronger than before. Go into this with your eyes open and with a strong spirit.

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From http://www.enotalone.com/forum/
showthread.php?t=81634

Your ex has opened up somewhat in suggesting that the two of you MIGHT be able to get back together, but you have to avoid the problems of your previous relationship.

She has also suggested that you do not meet just yet. I think that you are going ot have to listen to her. Why not call her, and see what she is up to, keeping it light and friendly, but don't mention getting together tonight. Perhaps she will? I think that the initiation of a meeting is going to have to be when she feels ready. However, you are in a good place, inasmuch as you have the green light in terms of contact.

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From http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t39398/

Left My man in attempt to get ex back, so far not working ;-(

(Q) Left My man in attempt to get ex back, so far not working ;-(

well i dated my ex about three years ago and was young. we dated for about two years and everything was perfect, we were so in love, but i was young and thought i wanted to experience life more. Well shortly after we split i met this guy whom i then started dating we were together for three years, i broke things off with him about a week ago, i love him and all, but needed to be alone again (in all actuality it was because i had started chatting with my ex). I did this because i haven't been able to stop thinking about my boyfriend before him and found out that he was now single . we have been chatting, we went out for drinks last week and went to a spa this week. well this week we got to kissing and stuff. things would have gone farther if i didn't stop. he asked me why i had gotten weird on him and i explained to him that there are to many feelings involved for me to just be able to sleep with him. I love this guy, I made the biggest mistake in my life when i broke up with him and i am really afraid to reveal more feelings for him and end up getting hurt. So anyway when i explained this to him he simply said, I have issues that I need to resolve and he doesn't want to get in the way of that. This really threw me off because he is not the "jerk type" he is very sensitive and super sweet. But now I am left not knowing what the heck to do. I don't know if he dismissed my feeling because he has none for me or what? I lost him once and I will do anything to get him back. Please tell me someone has an ideas??

(A)

Quote: I lost him once and I will do anything to get him back.

Boy has the tables turned. Do as he did when you broke up...hold on to that false hope. Love him, when he does not feel the same way as you. Call him and bug him as he did to you. Let him be and see what happens.

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From http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t39044/

Calling to the universe works to get ex back:

(POST) Calling to the universe works to get ex back

Guess what. It took a month and that calling to the universe and it worked. She called me this morning and asked me for to go to dinner with her. Turned out we went for lunch, after lunch my daughter called and asked what I was doing and I told her that I was with Michelle. my girlfriend. Anyhow in the past if my kids called I nevered told them who I was with... because of that, she asked me to pull over the car and she kissed me for about 5 mins. We went to supper and talked to a friend about her ex husband and was informed that he would never trust her again and she then realized after that month that I am the one for her. I have some things to clean up with my ex but wow.... She told me after the meeting with my collegue that I am the one and she wants me. GO FIGURE !

so it does work...

(RESPONSE) good for you.. what exactly did you do " calling to the universe" , it sounds self explanitory ?but I would still like to know what you did or how you did it..

(ANSWER TO RESPONSE)

The best way to describe it is that you first have to believe that you can make things happen. To begin to learn how to do this is a 3 part lesson. For the next 3 days, before you go to the shopping center or where ever, picture the parking spot location that you want, visualize it how its going to be available for you when you get there. Low and behold, it will be available for you by the time you get there. Now at the begining, you have to make sure that when you call to have this parking spot available be sure that you are at least 15 mins prior to getting to that spot. It will work. Its called nonlocal communication. Give it a try and email me back how it went

Hey my girl came back for life!!!!!!

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From http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t45487/

Why does he keep calling when he doesn't want to get back together?!

(POST) Why does he keep calling when he doesn't want to get back together?!

I dated a guy (classic commitment phobe) for about a year, then found out he had a whole secret life and was pretty much seeing 2 other women. I was devestated and ended it, but we maintained contact because I have to see him at work every day.

He left for an extended overseas holiday 6 months ago. For the entire time he's been overseas he has been calling, texting and emailing me. I have only once responded to his attempts at contact and that was for business purposes. He knows that I am still terribly hurt by his betrayal and trying to get on with my life. I told him before he left that I needed no contact.

Him leaving has been the best thing that has happened to me because I don't have to face him every day. But the constant barrage of emails and messages just brings me down. WHY does he keep contacting me when I never respond? Why does he continue to chase me when he has a new girlfriend? He's giving me false hope - I could so easily think that he's being genuine when all he really wants is for me to adore him again and give him everything in return for nothing. HELP!

(RESPONSE) Because besides being afraid of commitment he is also a hopeless womanizer. Collecting as many as he can and trying to keep or regain the ones that have got away. If being away from him helps you that much then I would write him a note telling him that his behavior is called stalking and punishable by 30 days in prison in most states. That should be enough to end it.

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From http://www.romanceclass.com/
miscr/submit/resp_sub.asp?id=5926

How to get ex back

Do you have some advice for this person?

Visitor's Question:

How to get my ex back after serious problems?

Our Suggestion:

The best way is to become his friend again.

Once you are his friend, don't put pressure on him to date. But, be honest with him in every respect of your relationship... and that includes letting him know that you still care for him. Don't just blurt this out at the first opportunity, wait until you think he is ready.

Communication is the key to rebuilding a broken relationship.

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From http://www.romanceclass.com/
miscr/LoveDtl/2914

How to Date : Talk Topics - Basics : 1 Big way to get Ex Back

After you've broken up, and you've decided you can't fix it with words, favours, or apologies, I see one thing for you to do. BE THE CENTER OF ATTENTION. This means..

- Be the biggest flirt

- Flirt with her/him but 10x more with anyone else.

- Give quick & brief replys to her/his questions, or when she/he sparks conversation.

- Accidentaly... ignore her/him.

- Quietly make friends with her/his friends.. but with others too, so it's not overally abvious.

- Always have something going for yourself, perhaps you share good food with friends, hold a party, be the first to talk about a "big event" on the news.

- Be confident! You want to come off.. like you've never been better.

- Perhaps accidentaly start a light rumour that you like someone other then her/him.

Be the nicest, most outgoing, best dressed, coolest, smartest, guy/girl you can be and stay confident.

The goal is to appear you have moved on.

While secretly you want her/him back bad.

People want what they can't have. So give her/him a reason to hang on, but seem hard to get at the same time.

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From http://www.loveshack.org/
forums/t38812/

Ex knows it's me calling and hanging up but hasn't called back -- why?

(POST)

What is going on with my situation?

For the past two weeks, i have not had any contact with my ex.But when i do feel like calling him, i usually call once and hang up, so that he would see my name on the caller ID. It's funny though because even though he sees my name on the caller ID he never calls me back. So should i call him again?

I wrote a letter to my ex back in Feb when we first broke up stating that if there was the slightest chance of us getting back together that a lot of things would change. After recieving the letter he called me the same day and wanted to talk to me. Well me being the stupid person, i didnt talk to him. The next day I called him and went to see him at his apt. WE've been in contact since then but its only calls here and there. So do you think that I should write him another letter?

He still has my pictures in his cabinet by his bed. Does it mean maybe he still thinks of me? He also has my letter that i sent him probably in there too. I dont know what to do.

(RESPONSE 1)

Men...

If he's not returning missed calls from you, either he's not interested anymore or needs time to think about things. In either case you might want to sit down and write down all the things that were good about the relationship and then all the things that were bad about it. Was the relationship really that great? or do you think you can find something better? Every person diserves a significant other who makes them happy and understands them. Good luck.

(RESPONSE 2)

What did you two talk about after the first letter that you wrote? You say that you asked if there was the slightest chance of you two getting together again. What was his answer then and what are you going to say that's any different in a second letter?

It sounds to me that you're still hoping that you two are going to get back together. Is that it? Are you prepared to hear the truth from him or do you think that if you keep sending him a letter every few months he might change his mind?

You shouldn't call and hang up like that - he'll think you're a psycho !! Maybe that's why he's not calling you back. Personally I would figure if they had something to say they wouldn't be hanging up after one ring so what's the point in returning the call?

I've read a few of your postings in other threads ( ) and I think what you're really dealing with here is the dreaded no-contact thing. Am I right?

(RESPONSE 3)

I think you really need to give him space. I know it's hard, and you want things to be better now, but guys really suck and they don't understand how emotional we are. If he still has your pictures, he obviously feels something for you, but the more you push the more he'll resist. Believe me, I know from what I'm going through right now and what I've gone through before. I hurt like hell and want to call my ex and tell him how I realize where our problems were, and how I want to work on them, and that I love him. But, he knows that I love him, I've told him. Deep down, I know he loves me. But, there's a reason we broke up and the more I contact him, the more he'll never want to see me again if that's not ture already. I wish I could tell you that love conquers all, but sometimes it's not true. When you want to call him, call your friends. By calling and hanging up he'll just think that your a little psychotic, and that if he would try things with you again you wouldn't be the lovely, sane, independent person that I'm sure you are.

(RESPONSE 4)

Quote: What did you two talk about after the first letter that you wrote? You say that you asked if there was the slightest chance of you two getting together again. What was his answer then and what are you going to say that's any different in a second letter?

Well i never got to talk to him about the first letter. I think thats why i refused to talk to him when he called. I just wanted him to think about it for awhile.

I think all i got out of it was "Dont push the fact that we're not together, and i know how much you think "this" sucks."

Quote: It sounds to me that you're still hoping that you two are going to get back together. Is that it? Are you prepared to hear the truth from him or do you think that if you keep sending him a letter every few months he might change his mind?

Yes, i'm hoping that we do get back together. I usually cry everyday but only for a period of minutes, then i'm fine the rest of the day. I have no clue if his mind will change or not, but i am hoping that it will. I'm prepared to hear the truth although i dont like rejection.

Quote: You shouldn't call and hang up like that - he'll think you're a psycho !! Maybe that's why he's not calling you back. Personally I would figure if they had something to say they wouldn't be hanging up after one ring so what's the point in returning the call?

well i would call when he wasnt home, for some reason it made me feel good. But when i leave a message with his sister or someone else, i dont think he gets it and wont ever call me back. I just really need to talk to him, it will make me feel so much better.

Quote: I've read a few of your postings in other threads ( ) and I think what you're really dealing with here is the dreaded no-contact thing. Am I right?

I'm not trying to do that...but he wont call me when i said to. Like the other day i finally got ahold of him and told him to call me sometime..all he said was ok. But i still havent heard from him. I miss him a lot. The other night my friend called because she's having the same problem i am. She was just bawling and i was trying not to cry with her because i thought i had finally got over him. Needless to say , I was crying the majority of the time.

(RESPONSE 5)

If this guy isn't going to get back with you (and he's said as much), then I think for your own sanity you should leave it be. Stop calling each other. Don't get in contact with him.

Maybe one day you'll be able to be friends, but not until you've gotten over your feelings for him. All you are doing is prolonging the agony, hanging around and delaying moving on in your life in the hope that one day.............. This is not how friends behave with one another. It's an unequal relationship where you're waiting around for a morsel of a phone call and he's getting on with things. The longer you take to realise this the longer it's going to take you to get over it and move on.

Sure cutting him off entirely won't be easy, but what you're doing now is not a healthy way to exist. You end up obsessing & hoping & he ends up getting tired of it all and in the end no one is happy.

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From http://www.fastseduction.com/
cgi-bin/ib/topic.cgi?forum=86&topic=3

Fast Seduction 101 Player Guide Board / But I really want this girl! / Get ex back

(POST) I recently split up with my ex and i was kinda clingy, we have not seen each other for like a couple of weeks but she is coming down to mine for a bit, now this is one mind f**k of a girl, she basically seems to not show any real emotion towards me when i see her outside of my house and she is with friends (after we split up) but i know she must have something there for me because when we split up we slept in the same bed and i ended up giving her a massage, we talked a bit then she went off.

but what is your advice for when i see her next it will probably just be us sitting in my lounge generally talking and stuff, the problem with our relationship before is that we spent to much time together, but is there a way where i can basically be discreet but get her wanting me so i can turn the tables round on who has the power because she basically had a lot of power in our relationship and for example even though we split up she still managed to get me to do favours for her, but when i refused to she got really angry.

We know each other really well, which i have noticed there isnt much tips for, but i think the time apart will help, and i also noticed she seemed to be kinda affected by the casual not caring way, although if its put on too strongly it wont be good.

(RESPONSE 1)

You--"I'm sorry it couldn't work out. You'll always have a special place in my heart, but right now, being near you just makes me want you back....and you just don't feel the same way. Lisa, I need some time alone without you. It's not that I hate you or anything, I just can't be near you for a few months, until I'm back on my feet and better able to handle being just friends with you."

(RESPONSE 2)

You need to see if you guys can ever be more than friends. If this can't happen, you need to put some time between the 2 of you or you will go nuts. This conversation is all business. Either the romance returns or she can't bug you for a while. This is because you clearly still have feelings for you and the 2 of you are officially non-romantic. If you try to recapture a woman who doesn't want you back, you will be in for a world of hurt.

(RESPONSE 3)

She just doesnt seem to care about me at all now, she doesnt even care if i just dissapear kind of thing, so i really dont think i have a chance getting her back, but space is a good way to do it, if i decide i want to get back with her in the future then it shall be easier to get with her if we have had a long time apart because it will be like starting from scratch i guess.

(RESPONSE 4)

Wainting until she is vulnerable will only have 2 possible results:

1-She'll realize you did this and she'll hate you.

2-She'll briefly be back with you until she no longer feels vulnerable and then she'll break up with you again, probably in an even worse way.

When one party gets too much power, bad things happen. You already know this I think.

If she could care less about seeing you, I would say time to move on. NEXT her. Stop wasting time and energy on her and put it into finding someone new.

IF she ever wants you back, it will most likely be when she realizes you can get other women and that you can live without her. If she thinks you are waiting for her, your chances are less than 1%. Best advice I can give you is pretend she doesn't exist. Then your chances go up to about 20% if she has any feelings left for you.

Find a new one. You'll be much happier.

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From http://www.enotalone.com/
forum/showthread.php?t=66536

Breaking up and Divorce > Getting Back Together > have opportunity to get ex back, what to do?

(POST)

Hi people..

I usually know what to do in any given situasjon regarding women, but this time I really haven't got a clue!

Ok, me and my ex was together for two and a half year. Then she left me because she didn't know if she had the "right" feelings towards me. Fair enough, but then the week after she left, she hooked up with a guy from eastern germany, she was there for a week in school exchange program!. That really hurt my feelings. This was in late april. He came to visit her in the beginning of june. eew, that sucked even more. But now, the tables have turned, I have the opportunity to get her back, she doesn't know my feelings towards her, since I've been telling her all along that I don't want anything to do with her anymore, wich is just partially right.

I truely love her and respect her in every way possible. But I don't know if I can cope with the thought of them two together. She is leaving saturday to visit the east-german dude, due to early ordered flight tickets. So that will kinda be strike three (if you know what I mean).

I think that she left in a hurry, just to show herself that she truely was an independent woman. We really had a great time together, with lots of love and devotion, propably the greatest relationship of all times. (We both agree on that) I don't blame her for leaving, just for finding someone new so fast.

My question to you is: what would you do in a similar situation?. I know this something that can easily turn into another BIG trip down hells-lane, but in my eyes I see the opportunity to reconsilliate and have a great time together again. But do you think I can trust her after what she's done? okey, we where not together at the time when she got together with the other guy, but I think that she should have waited at least a couple of weeks. Your oppinion on this?.

Thanks for reading through this, I really appreciate any advice/comments!

(RESPONSE 1)

Thank you for your update on here. I am pleased to hear that you have the opportunity to get back together with your ex again. I understand that you have doubts and that you're confused in wether doing so or not.

Actually the answer is in your heart. You have pointed out the pro's and contra's in wether or not trying to get back together. I am a little unclear over how her going to Germany is helping you in getting back together. I am not sure where you have based that 'getting back together' upon.

Anyways, listen to your pro's and contra's again. You know what to do, you are just not sure yet. I would recommend you to think twice. Like you said: getting back together might bring some real trust issues.

(RESPONSE 2)

>I am a little unclear over how her going to Germany is helping you in >getting back together. I am not sure where you have based that 'getting >back together' upon.

She's just as confused as me when it comes to this relationship, I know exactly what she would do in any given situation (wich actually isn't too positive, but in one "ment to be"-kinda way is)

There are many reasons why I know she want's to come back: First of all, I can see it in her eyes, btw the most beautiful eyes in the world. Her facial expression has changed, like in the way when she came back from the exchange program, she all of a sudden turned as ugly as can be. okay I know this is wierd, but I knew that she had found somebody new and asked her 'bout it.. she confirmed it. This "vision" if I can call it that, just lasted for a glimps of a second. I couldn't look at her for a long while without seeing the "ugly". Now it's gone, I don't even remember how it looked like. Just like that, over the night.

She also told me that she didn't want to be with the german guy anymore, and that she missed me a lot, and when she was alone she thought of me. She even wanted to have Sex with me. I didn't feel that it was right at the time being (okay _KICK_ me hard in the face!).

Now to the part about how it helps me that she's going to germany(this might be a little controversial, but... )

The last couple of days, she has only had me on her mind, also the german dude, but she only feels sorry for the german dude 'cos she know that he will get hurt and by her giving me a lot of thought and putting me on a pidestall, she might even have hopes that we could get back together, makes her recent the german dude and the fact that she hooked up with him, because back home she HAD me, the greatest guy in the world. ( her thoughts, not mine okay. , I've been there myself ) So it's going to be a down-trip to see her new BF again, wich in fact helps her not to do the same thing again.

Okay, I know it sounds like I'm the greatest narsisist in the world, but I'm not. I'll propably get a lot of beating for this, but if you stop to think and put yourself in her situation (remember, nothing was wrong, nom of us cheated of irritated each other, we just had a great time in our relationship) you would do the same thing!

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From http://www.43things.com/
things/view/229204

become friends with my ex

COMMENTS 1

I am now on friendly terms with all of my exes who care to talk to me. Granted, I was an ass at times to some of them, but they were just as careless and incosiderate back. All I can say is, I tried to rebuild the bridge, but the local building inspector wouldn;t have it.

Can’t make someone be friends with me.

COMMENTS 2

we were together for three years…the breakup was a huge mess but I really hope we are both at the same point someday where we can be friends. i know i would be happy to invite him to my wedding or go to his if we were at that point

“from the first to all the last times all the signs said ‘stop’ but we went on whole-hearted, it ended bad but i love what we started”

COMMENTS 3

You put so much time and work into a relationship, it’s nuts to waste all of that just because the relationship didn’t head where you thought. I have very few exes that I would never want to be friends with (they are the really really bad guys, felons, serial cheaters and the like). Some of my best friends are exes. We invested to much and got to know eachother so well, we just didn’t want to let it all be for naught.

COMMENTS 4

Looking back on this I can see that I’m finally over it! =) I was trying to be that person who was always there for him even if he needed to get away from me for a while- but I can see that I was just letting him treat me crappy. I happily give up on this goal and say “good riddance..” I am better off without it.

COMMENTS 5

I think that having a friend that knows you that well is well worth it. We’re trying to set up having dinner at least once a month now. We had sushi a few weeks ago. Next up, Korean food.

COMMENTS 6

Ok, well this is apparently not going to happen. I’ve tried reaching out but it doesn’t work, so I am giving up on this one for now. For some reason he’s moved on well enough to have a new girlfriend, bu he hasn’t matured enough to talk to me like a decent human being. This goal is really a waste of my time because he’s changed too much.

COMMENTS 7

Can be a double edged sword so you have to be careful…. Mostly it is good to have someone who knows you so well become your good friend…

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From http://www.enotalone.com/
forum/archive/index.php/t-66087.html

Is it possible to get back together with an ex?

(POST)

Hey do you guys think that it is possible to get back together with an ex after a couple of years apart? Do you think that the heart ever forgets, and that true love prevails in the end? I mean regardless of time?

(RESPONSE)

Ya i think it is totally possible to get back with an ex after a couple years apart. The heart never forgets anything...and usually true love prevails in the end...at least that is what society and the media keeps feedin us. You never know...just hope for the best.

(RESPONSE)

The heart definately does not forget true love! It is possible to get back with an ex after a few years. Me and my boyfriend went out in high school and it really was true love. We broke up after 1 1/2 years and we didnt talk much after that. However God, fate, and love brought us back together 5 years later(while I was in college). We dated for two years but we broke up 3 months ago b/c he needed to find what he really wants in life. I was like the only serious relationship he ever had so he wanted to make sure that I was the one for him. I is very painful for me right now b/c I am almost 100% positive that he is the one for me, but he has to find that out on his on. I truely believe that his heart will never forget about what we had and I know that someday it will bring him back to me. True love always wins in the end!

(RESPONSE)

Kantore I've talked to you before but if you've forgotten or any of you "new to my situation" people search confused79 as an author and find out more about my situation.

Heres the latest news. I've been talking to my ex almost everyday through aol im or on the phone. I wrote a topic about a month ago about it. Heres the summary: My ex contacted me through email after breaking up 4 years ago. We dated for almost 3 years during high school and post high school. He's far away in another state right now but will be visiting next month Wed-Sunday. We made plans a month ago to go out. He told me to make the plans. I already had made plans for the weekend that he'll be visiting but he reassured me that he'd be around during the week too. This makes me think that he still wants to go out. I'm thinking of taking off Friday from work possibly because if he wants to hang out all day with me we can see more about how we feel for each other. I'm still to scared to ask him over the phone or internet how he feels and why he originally contacted me. I'm hoping when we see each other that will tell the story because its been 4 years. His first response when I asked him why he contacted me was "I was bored". Please feel free to look up my other listings to get more details about my situation. I really need some help.

(RESPONSE)

Actually, it's more likely things will work out after 2 years. There's been enough time for wounds to heal and personal growth. A lot of the time relationships fail because of timing - the two of you want different things from life and grow apart. Chances are the timing is better 2 years down the road.

(RESPONSE) i think it is possible to get back with an ex just dont wait that long to try ... they might of moved on while your still stuck on them try doing sweet gestures.

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From http://www.alldeaf.com/marriage-dating-single-life
/22021-want-her-back-2.html#post409719

but I m not going blame for his mistakes that he broke up 4 times, even thro it may not be his fault, who knows it also his ex's fault that they broke and get back together 4 times?

Exactly! It is best not to blame UNTIL both sides of story is revealed. We don't know the other side of the story which should be coming out of his ex's mouth. Sometimes person would try to cover something that would suggest that it is this person's really at fault.

I think its really silly to try to get ex back together because once damages done it is really over. Its like trying to turn pickle back to cucumber, is that possible?

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http://answers.yahoo.com/
question/index?qid=1006010603897

(QUESTION) Best way to get ex back when he's scared of having the same relationship problems we had before?

(ANSWER) talk togther and find a way to aviod the problems that u had

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